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This Miscarriage & Stillborn Foundation has books available for families who have lost a baby:
- - You are part of our lives and will always live in our hearts
- - A Dad’s Story
- - Talking to Children about grief
The Miscarriage & Stillborn Foundation is a non government funded totally volunteer run charity.
Join as a memberBy adopting our charity and becoming a member you can help us to make a difference for healthier future Australian babies.As a member you will be kept informed of promotions and activities of the Foundation. Your annual membership fee directly contributes to helping our charity maintain its vital grief counselling telephone lines. |
Become a VolunteerVolunteers give a few hours, a few days or what ever time you can afford and you can become a valued volunteer.Volunteers are the heart beat of the Foundation and we value your support. |
Grief Counselling Training course
The Foundation’s grief counselling services are provided by professionally trained and caring individuals. People from all walks of life complete our grief counselling course as well as health professionals, psychologists and social workers.There are no prerequisites for participating in the counselling courses which are conducted around Australia for individuals who wish to become grief counsellors.
The grief counselling course we use is used across the world; the Grief Counselling Certificate training for peer support counsellors is highly acclaimed in medical circles. Grief counsellors learn strategies to help individuals in their journey through the grief process and the course equips peer support counsellors with the ability to listen to and validate effectively the grief of an individual with infertility issues or experiencing a pregnancy loss through miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal loss or premature birth.
There has been a death in the family
No eulogy, no coffin
No funeral, no black
And yet, there has been a death in the family
No undertaker, no hearse
No cemetery, no grave
And yet, there has been a death in the family
No belly, no fullness
No lifeline, no baby
There has been a death in the family
– Helen Warner Smith
To my baby
I wanted you so much. I was so excited when I discovered that you were on the way.
We had been hoping to have a baby for a while and I really thought you were meant to be! The timing seemed so perfect; I never expected anything to go wrong. I fell pregnant straightaway, I got all the symptoms; nausea, sore breasts and I felt so tired, I didn’t mind though because you would have been worth it.
I would have done anything to keep you. I’ll never understand why you didn’t stay with me. You were all I thought about. I had such hopes and dreams for you; I just knew you were going to be beautiful.
Ever since I was a little girl I’d wanted to be a mother. I’d waited a long time to have my dream fulfilled and now it would be…Well, I thought so then. I feel so empty and alone since you left me and even though you were only part of my life for ten weeks, I’ll never forget you.
I never thought it possible to feel such a love and longing for someone. It hurts so much to know that I’ll never hold you, never see you smile, never have you as part of my life. It doesn’t seem right when I wanted you more than anything in the world. I hope there’s a heaven and that you’re there.
Maybe I’ll get to meet you some day. In my heart and in my mind you’ll always be my first child, the first fruits of your daddy’s and my love. I love you so much and I’m still very sad. I still think about you nearly every day and long to have you back again.
I know I have let you go now, my baby; it’s so hard to do. I want to be able to hope for a brother or sister, for one who will stay with me much longer than you were able to. I know you would have stayed if you could have. It wasn’t your fault, it wasn’t my fault, it wasn’t your daddy’s fault, you just couldn’t stay and although I’ll never know why.
I’ll try and accept that and keep on hoping for happier times in the future. I will never forget you and I’ll love you forever, from your Mummy.